• 7 Steps to Success: Step 2

     

    Success Step 2: 

    Value the process more than events/goals. No matter what happens in your journey to whatever you are trying to achieve or attain, the actual events/goal that happen do not matter. It is what we become in that process that matters most.

    Being at the top or reaching a goal and it coming easily to you does not make the goal worth while. Its when we struggle, when we have obstacles in our paths, and having to overcome hurdles that make us proud of the accomplishment because of the path it took to get there.

    So how do we value the process and not focus on the end result? By creating it as teachable moments and learning as much as possible along the way. Yesterday we talked about improving ourselves. You have to be teachable in order to have success. Success has less to do with talent and more to do with choosing to learn. Because we don’t know it all. There is always room for growth in our lives. I like to call it being coachable. Remaining humble throughout the process, willing to learn from those who have created that same success before us, and always striving to become something greater than we currently are.

    Now 6.5 years in coaching, it is amazing the changes one makes with dealing with rejection, the ups and downs of going after goals, the struggles that I have personally had to overcome because I was letting myself get in the way. What?! ME? Yes! I struggled with communication to different personalities. Even with my husband, we struggle with communication. But what I have learned is how to recognize when there is something missing and we are not on the same page or how to approach others in a way that they will understand what I am trying to get across. Being able to do that will only make the process of getting to my goal easier and its a process of becoming better in my relationships.

    When things get difficult, that is when we learn what we are made of. Whether we persevere and push through or if we give up and let that circumstance control us. But guess what?! When you push through, you will realize what you are truly capable of and will become stronger in the end.

     

  • 7 Steps to Success: Step 1

    Success Step 1. Make a commitment to grow daily. What does that mean? It means to improve yourself. Through mind, body, and soul. Many times when we make a mistake, we don’t take ownership of that decision. We pass it on by reacting in anger, or hide our mistakes, we withdraw, or just give up all together. Or something happens in our lives that we throw our hands up to and wont do anymore because it didn’t work once.
    .
    ? If you want everything else in life to improve, you have to improve yourself first.
    ?It requires us to get uncomfortable.
    ?Improvement is not satisfied with quick fixes. You cant fix your entire life or how you react by one action.
    ? It is a daily commitment.
    .
    To make it intentional, you have to :
    1. Decide you are worth improving. Once you make the decision, then the action needs to take place.
    2. Pick an area you need to improve. This can be in parenting, business, finances, overcoming obstacles, whatever area in life you want to know more about and become better in.
    3.Find opportunities to improve when you are down. The hardest thing to realize is the lesson in our downfalls. But realize that when you want to give up or “fall off track”, that is a lesson! WHY do you fall off track? Why do you stop or lose motivation? Why do you let motivation be the deciding factor of you achieving your goals? Life is hard and attaining anything is hard. When you do things despite motivation, THAT is when you start to have success. Those that have figured out how to do things even though they dont want to are the ones who are succeeding in life.
    .
    We all have areas to improve. How we react to situations, how we can become a better person, parent, employee/boss, and friend. The biggest mistake one can make is to let circumstances and other people and failures determine your worth and success.
    .
    Within my team of coaches we read personal development daily. Its a commitment to ourselves to grow in the areas that we need help in or can improve upon. Here are some really great books that I have read lately.
    – The obstacle is the way. by Ryan Holiday
    – Relentless by Tim S Grover
    – You are a Bad Ass by Jen Sincero
    – Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
    – Who moved my cheese by Spencer Johnson
    – The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon
    – Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
    – The 5 second Rule by Mel Robbins